How do you REALLY Get 9s and 10s?
I mean, be honest. You didn't get into games without wanting this. Maybe it's only a piece of what you want. Like I never wanted to try dating or marrying 10s, because their world is chaos and it doesn't sound like a great foundation for a relationship. But I still wanted to maybe casually date them. I wanted the option. For other guys, though, this is their real goal.
Either way, my ~12 years of experience in game at this point shows me that almost every guy eventually gives up on this and reverse justifies why.
So what does it REALLY take to get 9s and 10s?
First, they're massively aggressive about controlling frames. When you're trying to talk to these girls, they want solid alpha males. That might not mean what you think it does – it doesn't necessarily mean that you act like a fucking gorilla. College girls like loud alpha males that act like gorillas. Girls you would call a 10 are generally models or cocktail waitresses that have seen everything. They generally like guys that can be loud and attract attention at a pool party in the afternoon, but they generally also want those guys to be able to wear a tuxedo and go to a massively fancy cocktail party in Cannes, France for the Cannes Movie Festival. Or other things like that. They'd still like the guy to be the center of attention there, but now they want him to be able to handle that situation. This means that 9s and 10s typically are interested in a type of 'alpha' that's deeper than being loud and the center of attention. They're interested in who subtly controls the frame.
This means if she walks up to you, and makes eye contact with you, and you eagerly lean in and try to talk to her... She's already won the frame. Just by looking at you, she got you to try to start selling yourself to her. You clowned yourself. Maybe she'll give you a classic “Shit test” but far more subtle, like looking at you dismissively. If you then try to launch some funny line or do something like that and she feels you're trying to play a game to get her to interact with you, you'll lose there too. The guys she likes will generally just stare back into her eyes, maybe tilt their head a bit. Bask in the silence until she cracks, maybe she smiles, maybe her face changes...
The best examples of this are often found in movies. Tom Cruise in Top Gun. Matthew McConaughey in “How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days”. Craig Daniels or Pierce Brosnan as James Bond. Much of the frame battle happens in total silence. When you're talking true 9s and 10s, they're battling you in silence and eye contact to see who's going to be in control. Are you trying to sell or game her? Do you get uncomfortable in the silence and tension? Or do you own the scenario? Are you solid? Are you a little slower, like you warp gravity around you. Are you intimidated by her? Or do you own the scenario like you own the oxygen in the room.
Now, you can probably tell that this subject is massively nuanced and complicated. Something that can take a lot of learning to understand, master, and execute. That's why we dive DEEP into it – first in the FREE First 10 Chapters of Game Solved and then throughout Volume 1 and Volume 2.
Next key – Sexual tension. The thing about 9s and 10s is they get all kinds of successful characters around them all the time. People offering to fly them to the Bahamas. Players that are good with girls. NFL and NHL players. You name it. These guys are often pretty good at eliciting emotions. They might be funny, confident, loud. The typical game type of stuff. So she LIKES those things, but they aren't RARE for her.
What IS rare for her, is powerful SEXUAL TENSION. As you'll see in the other quick articles here, and through the FREE First Ten Chapters of the book, sexual tension is like the golden key to the city for game. It's desire paired with a tension – that desire is thick in the air, but it's going unsatisfied. There's an attraction and a vacuum combined. Tension makes ALL emotions more powerful. That's one of the largest realizations you can ever have in game – one so advanced we don't explore how that works with emotions other than sexual tension until Volume 2. Anyway, by creating powerful sexual tension on top of the emotions she's used to, like humor and confidence and teasing and so on, you can really STAND OUT to her. You can be rare. You can be something that she won't just easily walk away from. In fact, girls think of sexual tension as “Chemistry”. And they associate chemistry oftentimes with guys that “Fate” wants them with.
Creating sexual tension and getting girls to that point is something we really go over in the FREE First 10 Chapters of the book. There's no way I can write a quick article and cover it here, but I DO cover it quite a bit in the first 60 pages in the free 10 chapters. The nuances of creating it in almost any scenario with almost anyone requires overcoming various walls she puts up and getting her interested enough to give you that kind of attention in an attracted frame. All of those pieces are things we go over throughout Volume 1 and 2. There's so much involved in the various frames and walls she puts up, in getting her attention and engagement in any scenario, and getting her attracted enough to build sexual tension, that these become the essence to gaming at a mastery level. The fact is, if you have high levels of sexual tension with a girl, you can probably go home with her or date her. So getting to that point is as important as creating that sexual tension. If you had the power to do it with anyone, you could get any girl you wanted... So those two aspects are at the core of the book and the FREE 10 chapters.
The last two pieces of actually dating 9s and 10s center around being “Socially competitive”. The fact is, these girls can't date anyone... But they basically can. If they want to date an NHL professional hockey player, they can make it happen. Especially these days, they can just DM them on Instagram. If they want to date an actor, maybe they can't date the top A list actors, but they can at least get dates with guys on TV and in minor roles in movies. They'll be at parties with A list actors occasionally. Same with musicians, millionaires, billionaires, etc. Their bigger problem is they probably can't get some of these guys to publicly parade them around as a girlfriend. But they can go on dates and hook up with them at a minimum.
For these girls, their social standing is crucial to them. What they wear, what they do, what they post on Instagram, what club they go to, who they hang out with... And who they date... Are all tailored to make them seem more valuable socially. Or more “socially competitive”. That means if they tell their girlfriends about a guy they're hanging out with, they want to be able to BRAG about the guy. Is he in the NFL? Is he a DJ at their favorite clubs? Does he own a yacht? Does he run a company? Is he an up and coming musician? Does he hang with celebrities and he invited them to a party with them later today? Is he a big photographer? If not, that doesn't reflect well on them in their social standing. Will they hook up with a guy they think is sexy that isn't socially competitive? Yes. If he somehow gets into the places they go to and talks to them long enough. But they even try to spend all their time in exclusive places and parties and talking to exclusive people. So that's hard on its own. But if the guy isn't socially competitive, they don't want to go around saying he's their boyfriend.
The other part of this, is to be involved with the 'flow' of those people. Are you at those parties? Do you work with models as part of your life? Do you DJ at nightclubs where girls come in the DJ booth with you? What do you do in your life that involves the flow of these people, where it's not forcing it for you to sit there and talk to them long enough to create the sexual tension, win the frames, and get it to that point?
Obviously those are also very complicated topics. Ones we dive into in great detail in Volume 2 and in live coaching/bootcamps. We go into a GREAT example of this and the power of it in the FREE First 10 Chapters, so you can learn a LOT more about this if you're fascinated by it. Bottom line – by the end of the book, you'll not only know HOW to get 9s and 10s, but you'll be fully capable of DOING it.
(Make sure you read the other mini-articles, especially “What does the absolute PERFECT game look like? What is the PEAK of game?” which covers most of the best pieces of 'perfect game'. And the article “How do you Really get your choice of girls,” which introduces what MASTERY game really is. And BE SURE TO DOWNLOAD THE FREE First 10 Chapters – which are a full 60 PAGES of really getting into how to do all of this!!)
Mini-Summaries of Game Solved with the REAL Answers to Your Biggest Questions (2-3 pages, the REAL answers you've NEVER heard):
